Thursday, April 4, 2013

Feeling Overwhelmed?

     Do you ever feel completely overwhelmed?  I do, fairly often I'd say.  I know I have a zillion things to get done, and just don't know where to begin.  I can't be the only person who feels this way, but I sure think that at times.  Maybe it's more "normal" than I imagine.

     Sometimes I consider that I might have some form of adult ADD, without the hyperactivity portion of course.  I am so easily distracted from a project, and I will procrastinate immensely if it's something I don't want to do.  I try to combat some of this by living from calendars so I don't forget something.  I have a fantastic one that I stumbled upon one day, called the Mom's Family Wall Calendar.  It has columns for each family member, so if your family is like mine, with people doing multiple activities, you can keep track of each person's events much easier.  I started using this calendar years ago, when I only had 2 children.  As our family grew, it came in even more handy to have.  For a while, my two youngest kids shared a column because there were 6 of us here, and only 5 spaces across.  Our oldest one has moved out on his own, so now we're back to having all the spaces full but not shared.

     Besides the wall calendar, where EVERYONE has to put their schedules on (if it's not on the calendar, it doesn't happen), I also carry my own planner in my purse.  Having a home business (I am an Independent Distributor for The Gourmet Cupboard), and 4 kids, it was a necessity to always have one with me.  Too many times I overbooked my time - helping at school, doctor/dentist appointments, home parties/vendor shows - so I made sure to get one to keep with me.  I started small, with a little one with tiny squares.  Didn't work for me at all.  Then I graduated to a book style one with a page for each day.  I loved that little chunky planner.  Unfortunately one year, I couldn't find another one like it, so I had to come up with another one that would work. 

     I have days (weeks, months, etc), like many others I assume, where I do multiple things in a day, so I quickly figured out that I HAD to have the full page for each day type.  However, those can get so big and bulky that they don't fit in a purse.  It took quite a while to find "the right one", and I finally settled on one with 3 days on a page (the weekend days share a slot).  Some days those spots can be full and overflowing into another day, but most of the time, it's the right space for us.  I have a daughter who works (she's 18 now) and will soon head off to college, plus two smaller kids who do activities like art classes, gymnastics, plus school events.  My husband hosts a trivia night every other week, plus does comedy wedding shows, and an occasional improv or teambuilder event, plus works a full time job.  Add in my home business events and caring for my mother who recently moved into a nursing home, and you can see why I need all the help I can get.  I actually spend time to "synchronize" our calendars.  I have this inner need to make sure everyone gets where they need to be, when they need to be there, and if I don't keep it all scheduled, it doesn't happen.

     So, am I the only batty one who needs to live from a calendar?  Does anyone else go shopping for the next one the minute they see school supplies in the store?  (Yes, I tend to have my next calendar by August, and spend time moving everything over as soon as I get it.)  Please tell me that I'm not alone here.  Then again, it wouldn't completely surprise me.  We all have our ways of coping, and this is one of mine.  Tell me about yours.


  1. Donna,
    I rely on a calendar and lists. I'm not always good about making lists on paper but there is always a running list in my head. My mom was the same way. I used to keep a Franklin Planner and believe I was more productive when I did. My issue now is having too many places for calendars so I try to keep everything on my Outlook Calendar that I use for my job. That way I don't double book. I think overall, we are just too busy and that's why we feel like we can't keep up. I like the wall calendar you use and bought one for my both of my daugthers-in-law a couple of years ago. When our kids were younger we used one calendar and everyone had a color! You have to use whatever works for you and it seems like you've found it! Congratulations and keep on keepin' on!

  2. Thanks so much! I definitely agree - we ARE too busy as a whole. Everything moves so quickly, and it's like a competition to see who can pack the most into their days, weeks, lives. Sometimes I wish we could go back to simpler times when that wasn't the case (but then I'd miss too many of the modern conveniences as well.)

  3. You are not alone in this at all! I only have 1 child and struggle very much with keeping up with everything. My calendar needs a calendar, ha! I use print out for each month and also use Google Calendar as a backup!